Does the size matter?
By Khushi Jhanwar
Alexa, remind me to say “fuck you” to all those who comment on my body or my appearance.
There are a lot of people around us who happen to know and care about us more than we ever could. They are giving us constant reminders on how we must look and carry ourselves in order to “fit in”. They are so worried about the way we live life that they’ve stopped living theirs to save ours. So many people are there to help us reach the standards of the society, still we are fighting for our rights and freedom. What a shame!!
I wish we could say all these things to those who are trying so hard to tear us down. I wish we could just say “fuck you” to those who are constantly telling us how we should look and carry ourselves. Well, sometimes we do confront them but sometimes we don’t, we can’t because it hurts too much, especially when these comments comes from those who are very close to us, who we thought might understand and support but they don’t because they are also a part of “the society”.
Approximately 91% of women are unhappy with their bodies and follow harsh diet plans just to “fit in” and be the “ideal” women. What is this “ideal” type? Looking like those American models, the “sexy type”? Sexy means to be attractive and I don’t think anything in this world is more attractive than a woman who speaks her mind, the women who stands for herself, the women who have confidence and boldness of a boss. Accepting yourself was not supposed to be this hard, you know? But it is because we are living in a “modern” world where looks matter more than heart, color matter more than than personalities, body matters more than your inner self. When did the size of our bodies became so important and trendy?
It is never too late to bring the change. You just have to start with yourself first. You just have to start by liking and then eventually loving yourself. You just have to stand in front of the mirror, look yourself in the eyes and say that you are WORTHY of love and acceptance. You have to stand up for yourself when someone is tries to tear pull your confidence down. When you say all these affirmations and showed up the boldness, you are going to connect with more people who are going through the same thing as you are. It always starts with “you” and then grows into “us”.